How to Create Healthy Relationships Between Your Foster and Birth Children

Creating strong and healthy foster relationships within a blended family of both foster and biological children can sometimes be a challenge. Still, with the right approach and communication, you can help bring everyone together and build a harmonious home life.

We have been supporting young people in care and the families involved since 1988, so we have put together helpful tips and strategies to promote healthy foster relationships within blended families. 

Whether you’re a parent, guardian, or care giver, this guide will provide you with practical advice and resources to help foster strong bonds and a harmonious household.


Understanding the Challenges


Building strong relationships between foster and birth children can come with its own set of unique challenges. 

But don’t worry; every family goes through ups and downs, and with a bit of patience, understanding, and effort, these challenges can be overcome. 

According to recent statistics, parents have generally reported a positive experience for their children in foster care. It’s important to keep in mind that fostering can be a big adjustment for kids, and it’s okay if they’re feeling a bit unsure about it.

That’s why it’s so important for fostering agencies and carers to be there to support them and make the transition as smooth as possible. By doing so, we can help create a positive experience for everyone involved.

At Family Care, we pride ourselves on the support we offer to our foster parents. For most day-to-day needs, your supervising social worker will be your main point of contact, but there may be times when you need support from one of our therapists, or from our support services team, who will be on hand to help you.

So, if you’re thinking about fostering, don’t worry – it can be a great thing for children, with just a few bumps in the road along the way. With the right support and guidance, fostering can be an incredibly rewarding experience for everyone involved.


Let’s take a closer look at some of the most common obstacles:


  • Green-eyed monsters: Sometimes, children may feel a twinge of jealousy or competition towards each other, especially if they feel like they’re not getting enough one-on-one time with Mum or Dad.


  • Different strokes for different folks: Foster and birth children can come from very different backgrounds, making it challenging for them to understand each other and build a relationship.


  • The adjustment blues: Changing family dynamics can be tough for children, especially if they’ve been through traumatic experiences or have suffered a loss.


By recognising these challenges and working through them together, you can help your foster and birth children develop strong bonds and lifelong relationships. 

Whether through open and honest communication, seeking support from a therapist, or finding common interests and activities to bond over, there are plenty of ways to help your children navigate these challenges and build lasting relationships.


Building relationships through communication


The home is where the heart is, and it’s also where foster and birth children form their relationships with each other. 

A supportive and nurturing environment is vital to helping children feel safe and secure, allowing them to build positive connections with each other. 

So, what can you do to create this kind of environment in your home? 


Here are a few helpful tips to get you started:


  • Get on schedule: Having regular routines, like family dinner time or bedtime, can give children a sense of stability and make it easier for them to connect with each other.


  • Shine a spotlight: Dedicating time to each child and celebrating their unique strengths and abilities can boost their self-esteem and encourage positive relationships with others.


  • Spread the love: Fostering acts of kindness, compassion, and understanding can create a warm and welcoming environment that promotes healthy relationships between children.


By following these tips, you can create a home environment that supports and nurtures your children, allowing them to build strong and positive relationships with each other. 

Whether it’s through family routines, individual attention, or promoting a supportive atmosphere, there are many ways to help your foster and birth children build healthy relationships.


Creating a supportive home environment


Open and honest communication is essential to building strong relationships between foster and birth children. 

When children feel comfortable talking to one another, they can build trust, resolve conflicts, and deepen their bonds. Here’s how you can encourage communication between your children:


  • Be an open book: Create an environment where children feel comfortable expressing their thoughts and feelings, and be there to listen when they need to talk.


  • Get creative: Engage in activities like role-playing, storytelling, or sharing, which can help children improve their communication skills.


  • Teach healthy habits: Show children how to communicate effectively by teaching them essential skills, such as active listening, empathy, and conflict resolution.


By nurturing strong communication skills, children can overcome challenges and deepen their connections with each other. 

Through promoting open communication, practising communication techniques, or teaching healthy habits, parents can play a vital role in helping foster and birth children build positive relationships.


Setting boundaries and respecting privacy


When fostering positive relationships between foster and birth children, setting clear and respectful boundaries is a must. 

It’s essential for children to have the space they need to grow and thrive, both physically and emotionally. And having clear boundaries in place gives them a sense of security and structure in the home.


So, how can you make sure you’re setting the right boundaries? Here are a few tips to keep in mind:


  • Make it simple: Lay out household rules in a straightforward and easy-to-understand way. That way, everything is clear about what’s expected of each child.


  • Respect their personal space: Teach children to value and respect each other’s physical and emotional space, helping to create a warm and supportive environment.


  • Encourage independence: By supporting their passions, hobbies, and interests, you give children the confidence and independence they need to thrive.


When boundaries are set with clarity, respect, and a focus on empowering children, they’re more likely to develop positive relationships with each other. 

So, let’s work together to create a home that nurtures healthy and happy relationships between foster and birth children.



Fostering healthy relationships between foster and birth children is critical for their overall development and well-being. 

Parents play a crucial role in creating a supportive and nurturing environment that fosters trust and open communication. This can be achieved through establishing clear rules and boundaries, respecting personal space, promoting individual attention and positive reinforcement, encouraging open and honest communication, and engaging in activities that promote teamwork and understanding. 

By fostering strong relationships between their children, parents can give them a sense of belonging and security, helping them grow and develop into confident, empathetic, and connected individuals. 

Ultimately, the goal is to create an environment that promotes love and growth that lasts beyond childhood into adulthood.

You can also discover the wealth of resources available to foster parents on our website, including valuable links to help you on your journey.


Make an enquiry about fostering


Family Care is here to support foster carers in the Northwest and Midlands regions. From Lancaster to Coventry, and everywhere in between, we’ve got you covered.

Our main offices are located in Preston and Penkridge, but most of our interaction will take place in your own home. If you need to come to one of our offices for a meeting, training, or to connect with our specialist support teams, don’t worry about travel expenses – we’ve got you covered.

We understand that being a foster carer can be hectic, so we hold training and support groups at local venues that are convenient for you. You’ll get a full schedule for the year ahead, and even have the opportunity to earn a fully funded Level 3 Diploma in The Children and Young Peoples Workforce.

At Family Care, we believe that the best outcomes for the children in our care come from providing foster carers with high levels of support, comprehensive training, and industry expertise.

Get in touch with our fostering team today to start your fostering journey with Family Care.

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